Emotional survival for the holidays 8 of 8

My 8th gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays? It's hard to know if you're doing any good, so instead we let things run around our head wondering. We wonder if it worked, wonder if it helped, wonder if we made anything better for ourself or others. So,  here are a few things to look for, questions to ask to allow you to sleep at night.